Though I hate generalizing or forming opinions about a group or a type of people, but I prefer to keep those things in my mind as a support tool for my personal “future” decision making situations.
One such observation has been regarding people, who deem it easy and “okay” to completely forget, cut-off their history and move ahead with their life without looking back. While I write this, many would have judged me for my sheer stupidity while writing it. I believe, people, at will do not wish to cutoff from their past. They will and will do it only when it contains enough trauma and intolerable pain, so much so, that it is indefinitely difficult to carry on with the present and the future. So, I am not judging good or bad about such people and their approach in life.
But there is one thing that I have realised with such people, is that they can be tough decision makers and that whatever they deem un-necessary or a mis-fit in their lives, they can simply barge ahead and do a permanent erasing off from their lives.
Now before you start judging me on how this quality or personality trait is an issue, let me remind you that the world is not just full of victims and so does this category of people. Not all such tough decision makers will be victims. Many will be the ones who will victimise people, exploit and then forget and move on. This is the group of people I am talking about.
To such a class of people, I strictly recommend anyone (majorly people with a high emotional fragility) not to get too attached. Because one fine day, they will let you know in the most simplest sentences, that they need to chop you off for some XYZ reasons and before you even take a guess at what happened, it will be over.
Such people have a few habits, which can be recognised as follows: (these traits again can be for both victim and the bully, so not judging their past, just observations)
- Not very eager to share their past or history
- Will not usually tell you how you fit into their future life sets
- Their favorite one liners are, “Let’s see”, “I don’t know”
- They will tell you they do not make promises to anyone
- They will tell you “this is how I treat everyone” even if you really mean a lot to them than the others
There can be n number of reasons, why a person is showing the above traits. Maybe they have faced a dark history, a very terrible experience or maybe just an introvert. But one thing for sure, do not get in too much emotionally with such people. Irrespective of whether they had been a victim themselves or the bully, they will take little time to remove you to the trash bin, before you even realise.
Now, the difference will be after the removal. If the individual had been a victim before, he or she will feel bad about your absence and if the individual has been a bully, there are 100% chances they won’t even remember you. But for both the class of people one thing for sure, they won’t look back on you. EVER!
So look out for such traits. Because it is really a habit for such people to cut and chop off. The worst part is they think that they are really good at it and feel proud of this habit. So be on a look-out in this deadly crowded world, where every 3rd person you meet seems a promising individual.
Always Ranting, Rantzaada.
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