What does making time for self mean?
Solitude?
Locked up in a room?
Self-treat and Self-gratitude?
umm.. not always!
Sometimes self is not a unitary existence. Sometimes, SELF means Someone Extremely Loving and Friendly and then at times you try and make out time for self. Your own self. Your own effing self.
It is a dichotomy that self and SELF are diagrammatically opposite. It is all about understanding how we perceive SELF or self. To realise it’s soul you need to first look inside you. What are you and what consists of you! Are you the one who can spend nights and days alone equally? Are you the one who has never ever thought of someone close when you were having that tea in the cafe. Did you not want someone’s company when you were in the market and suddenly you see a gang of school students cross by. Loose ties, un-tucked shirts, a thousand words written on their shirts. Black,green and red markers. Sweaters tied across their waists. Dont you miss people?
Don’t you miss a company when you see a family of 7 having lunch from home-made food kept in a series of steel and plastic tiffins? Soft, round poori and the golden yellow aloo bhujia and along with it, the dark spicy pickles. Alongwith it, a thermos flask with water. Don’t you feel you also have a group like this back home?
Don’t we miss someone when we sit in a cafe along with your pending presentation on your sleek modern laptop and then suddenly you see that young couple, in the late adolescent, come and hug and sit together and sip the coffee together and talking about all their friends and their studies. All you want to do then is to shut down your laptop and have someone sit next to you and ask you stupid things and crack jokes with you and laugh together.
Dont we miss people around us when you are lying down with fever in your hostel room and consistently waking yourself up to change that wet cloth on your forehead. How convenient it was when there were friends or families around you who came up and sat by your pillow changing that cloth, checking the medicines, showed up to meet you just because you were sick. Does make a difference, doesn’t it?
If nothing of the above happens to you. Its ok. You are the one with the self. You can enjoy yourself and the best way is to keep treating yourself and keep yourself happy. Give yourself the best gifts one could think of. Be good to others but be the BEST to yourself. Get a life!
But, if you have a SELF, you will miss everything above. You will feel everything that’s written above. You might require a self time “sometimes” but most of the problems that come in your life will get solved by the SELF times. Go ahead and call out friends, families or anyone who you think you have kind of left behind in the mad race for making a life for the self.
Go ahead and call or text someone whom you have really not contacted in a while. Call your parents if you don’t do so regularly. Ask them how they are doing. call your school friends and talk to them. Not a problem, if they dont respond with the same zeal. It’s ok. Hang up and don’t call them up again. Finding your SELF might be a little tedious. But you never know.
Who’s your SELF? Share this with them and let them know you remember them still and that no bounds of time or distance can weaken the bond between you guys!
Always Ranting, Rantzaada.
The 11 o' clock diary 